This Work Is Different
Most couples don’t just need more communication tips. They need a different experience of each other and themselves. When conflict repeats, it’s rarely just about the content. It’s about nervous systems, perceptions, and attachment histories colliding, automatic protective responses taking over, and two good people reacting in ways they never meant to.
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I work with you in those moments, where the tension and opportunity actually live. I help you notice the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) shifts that derail connection and guide you toward new responses that create safety instead of threat.
You don’t just understand each other differently, you begin to experience each other, and yourselves, differently.
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That’s what changes a relationship.
Working With Me
​Therapy with me is in person with both of you present. Each session gives you time to slow down, really notice each other, and get support where it matters most. You can speak openly about your worries, frustrations, hopes, and hurts knowing your flaws and vulnerabilities are welcome here.
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Solving immediate problems is part of the process, but my bigger goal is to help you truly know and better care for each other, shaping a relationship that feels safe, connected, and resilient. ​I help you learn the principles and practice the skills that foster a happier, more secure relationship for the long term.
This work is tender and focused on meaningful change that you design together.
What A Session Is Like
​Rather than spending the session talking mostly to me, you’ll face each other in rolling chairs. I work from the sidelines, noticing what’s really happening and coaching you in real time. I pay close attention to tone of voice, body language, eye contact, and the split-second shifts that happen when stress hits. Rather than debriefing conflict afterward, we address it at the source as it unfolds, which means change happens faster and sticks.
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The goal isn’t a perfect relationship but rather a stronger, more secure one. Think of it as building a better boat, one that holds you both safe through all kinds of weather.
Who This Work Is For
​Couples who tend to be the best fit for this work love each other and care deeply about their relationship.
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They manage well in the world — responsible, kind, capable, and smart — yet still find themselves struggling in their relationship, wishing things were better.
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They are not looking for surface advice or quick communication tools. They want to understand what is actually happening between them. They want meaningful change.
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They're willing to slow things down and look closely at their own patterns. They are open to being challenged and supported and can take responsibility for their part, even when it is uncomfortable.
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This work asks for accountability, willingness, and effort from both people. It requires showing up and staying engaged, even when things feel tense or vulnerable.
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When both partners bring that willingness and effort, the work can feel steady, transformative, and deeply meaningful.
The Process
Step 1
Intake Session (90 mins)
We start with what’s happening in your relationship right now and set the groundwork for the sessions ahead.
Step 2
Assessment Intensive (2.5 hrs)
A deep dive into who each of you are, how you relate, and how you learned to cope with closeness, conflict, and stress. Together, we start to identify the patterns that show up between you — especially the ones that take over when you feel hurt or threatened.
Step 3
Regular Sessions (75-90 mins)
We meet weekly or every other week. Building new ways of relating that feel secure, connected, and sustainable.