BETTER
IS POSSIBLE
Couples Therapy in Santa Barbara, CA
You Love Each Other. So Why Does It Feel So Hard?
You keep having that same argument. You’ve really tried to do better, and somehow you keep ending up in that familiar place where both of you feel stressed, and neither of you feels understood.
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You’ve tried talking it through. You’ve read the books. You’ve done your best to handle it on your own. But here you are — still feeling stuck and unsure what to do next.
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Maybe it’s something big. Trust has been broken, and the distance between you feels hard to bridge. Or maybe it’s smaller. You’re not connecting the way you used to, and you don’t want to ignore it or hope it fixes itself.
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Either way, you’re in the right place.​
Imagine Better
You become experts on each other. Your relationship feels like home again. You know how to help each other when things get hard. You repair quickly when you mess up and you lead with relief before explaining yourself.
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Hi, I'm Jami
I work exclusively with couples. This is what I do and I’ve been focused on this work for over 20 years.
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I’m a Certified PACT Couples Therapist. PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) is a science-informed model that helps you understand what’s really happening in your relationship. We explore how your nervous systems interact under stress, how early attachment experiences show up in your relationship, and how memory shapes what you expect from one another. From there, we work toward clarity, accountability, and meaningful change.
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Sessions are active. We work with the moments that usually escalate, trigger defensiveness, or shut you down. We look closely at what is happening underneath the reaction and work with it directly in real time.
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The goal isn’t just insight, it’s a different, better experience of each other. I help you learn new patterns and build habits that strengthen your connection and make life better together.