BETTER IS POSSIBLE

Couples Therapy in Santa Barbara, CA

You Keep Having The Same Argument

You end up in that familiar place where neither of you feels understood. You’ve tried talking it through. You’ve read the books. You’ve done your best to handle it on your own. But here you are, still feeling stuck and unsure what to do next.

Maybe it’s something big — trust has been broken, and the distance feels hard to bridge. Or maybe it’s smaller — you’re just not connecting the way you used to, and you want to address it sooner rather than later.

Either way, you’re in the right place.

Imagine Better

You become experts on each other. Your relationship feels like home again. You know how to help each other when things get hard. You repair quickly when you mess up and you lead with relief before explaining yourself.

The conflicts don’t disappear, but now you know how to move through them more skillfully, and with purpose. You protect the relationship even when you disagree, always solving for the win-win. You both feel heard. You both feel connected.

This is what I help you learn to do.

Jami Faletti, Couples Therapist Santa Barbara, CA

Hi, I'm Jami

I work exclusively with couples. This is what I do and I’ve been focused on this work for over 20 years.

I’m a Certified PACT Couples Therapist. PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) is a science-based model focused on meaningful change by understanding how your nervous systems interact under stress, how early attachment experiences show up in your relationship, and how memory shapes what you expect from one another.

I also draw from others useful models such as EFT, Gottman, the Developmental Model, Relational Life Therapy, and Object Relations. Great couples work isn’t exclusive to any one method, but instead draws from the full body of knowledge to find solutions couples need.